{"id":2464,"date":"2021-12-06T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-12-06T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/?p=2464"},"modified":"2021-12-05T22:56:21","modified_gmt":"2021-12-05T21:56:21","slug":"dear-felicity-a-literary-advice-column","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/2021\/12\/dear-felicity-a-literary-advice-column\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Felicity – a Literary Advice Column"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

 Image<\/strong>: “Hanas Helpline”<\/a> by DrJohnBullas<\/a> is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 2.0<\/a><\/span>

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These literary characters have reached out to MUSE’s agony aunt, Felicity, asking for her help. Can you guess who they are?
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Dear Felicity,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have been unsuccessfully looking for love. I want a girlfriend but I think there\u2019s nobody like me in the world. I would love her for all her flaws and imperfections. My father left me after my birth. I have recently found him again but he finds me ugly and he says no one will ever love me the way I am. I even have asked him to help me get a girlfriend but it\u2019s out of the question for him. I have so much love to give but I don\u2019t know what to do anymore. What else can I do?      <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yearning for love<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear Yearning,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your father sounds like a very unhealthy person. He may be your father, but you are by no means obligated to stay in his life if he isn\u2019t doing you any good. You are worth it and beautiful just the way you are, and somewhere out there, there is someone looking for you. Don\u2019t give up!

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Dear Felicity,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just got married! I am really excited: he is loving, handsome, rich \u2013 a dream! My problem is, since the day we got married and I moved in with him, he seems cold and does not show any affection. I have been trying to distract myself but his housekeeper keeps reminding me of his late wife. I have started to think he is still in love with her! What should I do about it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A discouraged bride<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear Discouraged,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, no one should compare you to another woman. If your husband\u2019s housekeeper has a problem working for you, raise the problem to your husband \u2013 she should respect you. Second of all, from what you’re describing it seems like your husband loves you and really wanted to marry you. Maybe something else is on his mind and he is not ready to open up about it yet. Show him that you\u2019re there for him and share your limits and boundaries. Good luck!

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Dear Felicity,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve just been expelled from school. I know I should care, but I feel like everybody is so fake, so I don\u2019t. I\u2019m struggling to make good decisions and I always seem to fail saying the right thing to people who do care about me. I don\u2019t like many things. I make big decisions lightly, knowing I wouldn\u2019t go through with them anyway. I\u2019m scared my parents will never be proud of me. Can you help me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        An overwhelmed boy<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear Overwhelmed,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It isn\u2019t easy growing up and knowing what you want. Remember that nobody has got it figured out. Do more of what makes you happy, keep exploring. Take your time to process information; nobody is rushing you. Your parents are there for you and I\u2019m sure that if you share your worries with them, they will happily help you make sense of what you\u2019re going through. Take your time to breathe!

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Dear Felicity,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have been spending a lot of time with a man recently. He is coaching me so I can get a better job. I\u2019ve been making great efforts and helping him with so many things, but he has never even praised or thanked me! But I keep telling myself that somewhere between all his bitterness must lie kindness, and I keep pursuing recognition from him. Also, he tells me if I leave, I will go back to my old job and never succeed. I\u2019m afraid I won\u2019t make it on my own. What am I supposed to do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                                                                                                      A torn girl<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear Torn,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I hear you: it is hard to let someone go if you believe there is good in everyone. But, someone who disrespects you is not worth your time: spend time with people who treat you right. If you are not ready to give up on his coaching just yet, try to set yourself a limit of how far you are willing to go, or how long you are willing to stay without recognition. Plus, from what I\u2019m hearing, you have made a great deal of progress and I am sure you can make it without him. Take care of yourself, you\u2019ve got this!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

 Image: “Hanas Helpline” by DrJohnBullas is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 These literary characters have reached out to MUSE’s agony aunt, Felicity, asking for her help. Can you guess who they are? Dear Felicity, I have been unsuccessfully looking for love. I want a girlfriend but I think there\u2019s nobody like me in the world. I would love her […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1001996,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[68],"tags":[70],"class_list":{"0":"post-2464","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-2021-winter","7":"tag-special-features"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2464","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1001996"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2464"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2464\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2464"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2464"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.unil.ch\/musemagazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2464"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}